Hi there
Now firstly i don't really mind how many people find it sad me writing about approaching girls.
I make no excuses, i am a shy quiet guy but one who has great confidence when you get to know me, as seen by my charismatic attitude when i feel comfortable around someone.
Anyone who says this is just sad is in no way an opinion i want ot need to here. I am here asking this question because i do find it hard at times to make that initial approach towards a girl and i am here asking for your opinions ladies.
The situation i would like to ask about is one that took place today.
I went for a drink after work (on my own) as the pub is over the road from me and none of my mates work nearby) and whilst there a set of three girls came in and sat on the table in front of me. The one i fancied the most was sat facing me on the table in front and regularly looked over at me and i looked back at her. I was attracted to her but because i am shy as a guy, i frustrate myself.Ladies, your advice please: A typical situation for a guy to approach a girl?
dont be intimidated. be YOURSELF. apparently, she was interested in you as well. be confident. imagine yourself talking to a regular friend. good luck. if you need more help or advice, feel free to email me.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Girls and guys: dont know if hes right for me? advice asap kthanx?
this really cute guy, who lives near me, keeps smiling at me and teasing me whenever we see each other. he even walks me home sometimes, but, judging by the way he acts, ide say he has a thing for me i guess. i like him, but i really wouldnt consider going out with him if we ever did get to that stage because....hes a trouble maker, gets in trouble with the police, drinks, and prob other stuff i dont even know of because i havent really asked him that but i dont want to jump to conclusions. by the way, hes not emo or anything, in fact, he plays football, kinda like a jock/skater guy. im a girl whos nice, honest and doesnt get involved wit crazy $hit like that or anything. do you think its a good idea to date a lowlife? what would you do if this choice ever came by?Girls and guys: dont know if hes right for me? advice asap kthanx?
It is your choice to make.
It is your choice to make.
What are the signs. if a guy has a feelings for a girl? i need a tips and advice?
He teases her a lot.What are the signs. if a guy has a feelings for a girl? i need a tips and advice?
calls her alot, wants to do stuff with her, stars at her, smiles at herWhat are the signs. if a guy has a feelings for a girl? i need a tips and advice?
Flirting is definitely a sign, but I am thinking if he is showing her more attention than he used to then she should be able to notice that he has feelings for her. He also starts to be more concerned about things that relate to her and she will always tell the difference. However I am of the opinion that you have nothing to lose by telling the guy how you feel then you know exactly how he feels. The worst that could happen is that he will say he is not interested. And the good thing with that is that you move on and focus your energies on the next guy, rather than spending time pining for someone that isn't actually interested in you. So bottom line if you aren't sure ask... you have nothing to lose...
Check the bulge in his pants when you see him next.
The guy gets shy when he is around the girl he likes.
Guys don't play games like girls do. So if you open your eyes, it should be fairly obvious if a guy is interested.
smiles at her:) gets nervous.. and does goofy things.
teases her. makes fun of her.. wants to spend time with her..
goes out of his way to talk to her... lets her know that he likes her.. theres alot of different things a guy could do. most of all FLIRT! you defenetly know when a guy likes/has feelings for you.. is when he flirts with you alot. when my boyfriend and i met for the first time .. he was smiling ALOT! it was really cute.. theres obvious signs.. and theres the ones that you can't predict.. but as you get to know them more, they start to show up more and more. you'll know:) trust me.
tend to stare at the female, tend to shyer then normal, when ye nearby, pulse should rise too,
Possibly he will call you alot and ask for a date...Look on his eyes and smile at him and if he smiled back on you he had feelings on you...Mostly he loves talking to you.....or hanging out with you too..
calls her alot, wants to do stuff with her, stars at her, smiles at herWhat are the signs. if a guy has a feelings for a girl? i need a tips and advice?
Flirting is definitely a sign, but I am thinking if he is showing her more attention than he used to then she should be able to notice that he has feelings for her. He also starts to be more concerned about things that relate to her and she will always tell the difference. However I am of the opinion that you have nothing to lose by telling the guy how you feel then you know exactly how he feels. The worst that could happen is that he will say he is not interested. And the good thing with that is that you move on and focus your energies on the next guy, rather than spending time pining for someone that isn't actually interested in you. So bottom line if you aren't sure ask... you have nothing to lose...
Check the bulge in his pants when you see him next.
The guy gets shy when he is around the girl he likes.
Guys don't play games like girls do. So if you open your eyes, it should be fairly obvious if a guy is interested.
smiles at her:) gets nervous.. and does goofy things.
teases her. makes fun of her.. wants to spend time with her..
goes out of his way to talk to her... lets her know that he likes her.. theres alot of different things a guy could do. most of all FLIRT! you defenetly know when a guy likes/has feelings for you.. is when he flirts with you alot. when my boyfriend and i met for the first time .. he was smiling ALOT! it was really cute.. theres obvious signs.. and theres the ones that you can't predict.. but as you get to know them more, they start to show up more and more. you'll know:) trust me.
tend to stare at the female, tend to shyer then normal, when ye nearby, pulse should rise too,
Possibly he will call you alot and ask for a date...Look on his eyes and smile at him and if he smiled back on you he had feelings on you...Mostly he loves talking to you.....or hanging out with you too..
Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (dont bother answering if you are gonna say im too young at all!!?
I'm 13, 5'4';, chubby, green eyes, dark blonde-light brown hair.I'm a very shy girl and not very confident. I can be a fun person to be around,but usually at school see the shy sad part of me. Some things happened so the guys have seen me cry. Could that have scared them? There is a musician that I really like and I don't know why I'm so attracted to him, but I am. I also like jocks. Every guy I like is so far out of my league that is isn't even funny. How can I maybe increase my confidence and maybe (and thats a huge maybe) get a guy to like me? Thanx in advance.Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (dont bother answering if you are gonna say im too young at all!!?
Im 13 too and I like this Girl Named Andrea Ferris and once I talked to her she started to be my freind. Tommorw I'm going to ask her out.Its that simple say hi to him one day, then the next day try to get into a conversation with him.Either in the school library or during lunch or whatever. Good luck Girl I'm pullin 4 YOU!!!Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (dont bother answering if you are gonna say im too young at all!!?
you can't make a guy like you. they have to like you on their own and right now, they are probably liking the extra skinny popular snobby girls
First, you gotta love yourself. This is an important time for you where you start to notice your feelings about when it comes to the opposite sex. Have you tried hair styles different from the one you have and maybe possibly a small amount of make-up. It is okay to be shy, but do not put your emotions out there like you stated in your question. People do like a little mystery. Other than that, you have time because first, you must accept who you are before anyone else can.
Well i think if u just went out and spent some money on buying yourself some cute clothes, new shoes, and just perk up a little the guys heads will be turning. i had ur same prob when i was 13... (2yrs ago) trust me its a big confidence boost... it'll make guys notice u in a good way!! good luck!!
even though u are shy, but when u meet someone you like, and he likes you too..things will fall naturally, u will basically be able to talk anyhting...so just relax...being young means having lots for time
Hey I am a little older then you and let me just say...
be confident, and make sure u can be outgoing, GUYS LIKE TO HAVE OUTGOING GIRLS! just talk to a guy and make contact with him and if he just wants gross thing s with you, dont bother. just explore....high school is yet to come for you.
you need to look in the mirror in get concieted cuz if you ount like urself no one will like you , and if a dude is not checkin for you move on ... ya digg thirteen is not to yung for this discussion teens is growin up fast nowasays im thirteen two
p.s we all cry sometimes
Im 13 too and I like this Girl Named Andrea Ferris and once I talked to her she started to be my freind. Tommorw I'm going to ask her out.Its that simple say hi to him one day, then the next day try to get into a conversation with him.Either in the school library or during lunch or whatever. Good luck Girl I'm pullin 4 YOU!!!Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (dont bother answering if you are gonna say im too young at all!!?
you can't make a guy like you. they have to like you on their own and right now, they are probably liking the extra skinny popular snobby girls
First, you gotta love yourself. This is an important time for you where you start to notice your feelings about when it comes to the opposite sex. Have you tried hair styles different from the one you have and maybe possibly a small amount of make-up. It is okay to be shy, but do not put your emotions out there like you stated in your question. People do like a little mystery. Other than that, you have time because first, you must accept who you are before anyone else can.
Well i think if u just went out and spent some money on buying yourself some cute clothes, new shoes, and just perk up a little the guys heads will be turning. i had ur same prob when i was 13... (2yrs ago) trust me its a big confidence boost... it'll make guys notice u in a good way!! good luck!!
even though u are shy, but when u meet someone you like, and he likes you too..things will fall naturally, u will basically be able to talk anyhting...so just relax...being young means having lots for time
Hey I am a little older then you and let me just say...
be confident, and make sure u can be outgoing, GUYS LIKE TO HAVE OUTGOING GIRLS! just talk to a guy and make contact with him and if he just wants gross thing s with you, dont bother. just explore....high school is yet to come for you.
you need to look in the mirror in get concieted cuz if you ount like urself no one will like you , and if a dude is not checkin for you move on ... ya digg thirteen is not to yung for this discussion teens is growin up fast nowasays im thirteen two
p.s we all cry sometimes
Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?
I'm 13, 5'4';,chubby,dark blonde-light brown hair, green eyes, and a fair complexion with naturally rosy cheeks. I know that I'm pretty and can be confident at times, but then I see one of the guys I like (there are many, but i dont want to go farther than making out before i get married) and I just melt and put up walls and start feeling like I could never be good enough for them (I happen to like the preppy popular jocks, lucky me... *rolls eyes*). When I'm around guys I like I just become this shy, meek little lamb. I become the ';yes'; girl instead of who I really am. How can I get over that and get one of them to like me? Oh, but I dont only go for preppy popular guys. There's also a musician who plays guitar, sings, and writes songs in my grade that I like.Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?
Ok first of all if you start makingout you will go further and further then that... thats for sure! I know because I was the same as you...
Second off all your still young... your growing up and its normal to have feelings about the opposite sex at this age but dont do anything silly... you have a long time to grow up and know what you really want so dont jump into somthing and later when you get older think damn... I regret that.
My theory is you dont need to date untill you are looking at getting married. Are you? If not y date? there is no other reason for dating than to find your marrige mate really...
Have fun and forget about guys... hang out with your friends study hard and just enjoy your teenage years as best you can becuase one day they will be gone and you will never get them back. :)
Make friends with guys and just be friends for now... when your ready for it you will find the best guy for you otherwise you will date alot of guys and get hurt alot and who else knows...
You sound very smart and sweet so keep it that way :)
Good luck!Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?
just ask one of them out, we don't really like that get to know them thing, epecally not jocks, they don't have much brains, plus most of them only think about sex or sports
Just don't do anything that you'll regret after it already happened.... and HAVE FUN.
I WAS ALWAYS SO SHY AROUND GUYS I LIKED,
IT IS EASIER TO BE THEIR FRIEND, TRY TO GET TO KNOW THEM N JUST BE FRIENDS WITH THEM, I HAVE HAD THE HOTS FOR PLENTY OF GUYS N GOT TO KNOW THEM N HANG OUT WITH THEM N FOUND OUT THEY SO WERE NOT WORTH MY TIME EVEN AS FRIEND.
STAY CONFIDENT, IN YOURSELF.
STICK TO YOUR MORALS
PRAY ABOUT YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND AND YOU WILL HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT.
Start low and progress try to befriend some of the non jock guys and work on your skills when talking to them, then when you feel that you are ready talk to the ';jock'; guys. Try to start a conversation and they arent interested dont force it and try again later. if it continuely doesnt work just stop and go after someone else.
try to become his friend first so you dont feel shy around him. then maybe you could start something from there
Ok first of all if you start makingout you will go further and further then that... thats for sure! I know because I was the same as you...
Second off all your still young... your growing up and its normal to have feelings about the opposite sex at this age but dont do anything silly... you have a long time to grow up and know what you really want so dont jump into somthing and later when you get older think damn... I regret that.
My theory is you dont need to date untill you are looking at getting married. Are you? If not y date? there is no other reason for dating than to find your marrige mate really...
Have fun and forget about guys... hang out with your friends study hard and just enjoy your teenage years as best you can becuase one day they will be gone and you will never get them back. :)
Make friends with guys and just be friends for now... when your ready for it you will find the best guy for you otherwise you will date alot of guys and get hurt alot and who else knows...
You sound very smart and sweet so keep it that way :)
Good luck!Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?
just ask one of them out, we don't really like that get to know them thing, epecally not jocks, they don't have much brains, plus most of them only think about sex or sports
Just don't do anything that you'll regret after it already happened.... and HAVE FUN.
I WAS ALWAYS SO SHY AROUND GUYS I LIKED,
IT IS EASIER TO BE THEIR FRIEND, TRY TO GET TO KNOW THEM N JUST BE FRIENDS WITH THEM, I HAVE HAD THE HOTS FOR PLENTY OF GUYS N GOT TO KNOW THEM N HANG OUT WITH THEM N FOUND OUT THEY SO WERE NOT WORTH MY TIME EVEN AS FRIEND.
STAY CONFIDENT, IN YOURSELF.
STICK TO YOUR MORALS
PRAY ABOUT YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND AND YOU WILL HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT.
Start low and progress try to befriend some of the non jock guys and work on your skills when talking to them, then when you feel that you are ready talk to the ';jock'; guys. Try to start a conversation and they arent interested dont force it and try again later. if it continuely doesnt work just stop and go after someone else.
try to become his friend first so you dont feel shy around him. then maybe you could start something from there
Anyone got advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (if ur just gonna say im too young then dont answer)?
dark blonde-light brown hair, green eyes, and a fair complexion with naturally rosy cheeks. I know that I'm pretty and can be confident at times, but then I see one of the guys I like (there are many, but i dont want to go farther than making out before i get married) and I just melt and put up walls and start feeling like I could never be good enough for them (I happen to like the preppy popular jocks, lucky me... *rolls eyes*), but I also go for the musicians. When I'm around guys I simply melt and become a shell of what I am when I'm around anyone except guys I like. The guys I like are just so far out of my league. I'm shy but like I said I definately have my confident days. Thanx!Anyone got advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (if ur just gonna say im too young then dont answer)?
I'd just hang around and be friends with them and have them be friends with you. You will become confident in the company of guys while still hanging out with your friends. That way, when you find that special guy, you will be able to speak to him without as many butterflies. Remember, they are probably just as nervous around you at that age.
Have fun and enjoy your youth.Anyone got advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (if ur just gonna say im too young then dont answer)?
Your problem is you think to much. Simple as that.
I'm sixteen this worked great for me in jr. high I'm sure you kick a$$ at something and you feel on top of the world when you do your best like i do karate for example there are some ok looking guys in my class and it's easy to be shy think of it like this he's an opponent when i do it's all good they take me seriously and i can still be me and charming so see it like he'syour opponent or something make sure what ever it is you feel dominant and in charge just don't come on too strong. Feel dominant and confidence is your best friend
Its so cute that you are thinking about guys at your age, my sister around your age and is just getting into guys too. I congratulate you on your desicion on wating till you are married to you know what. Allright, well what you need to do is get a boyfriend. Go out with him for a long while, maybe 2 to 4 months, when you are done just flirt with your guy friends, and start learning how guys work, trust me, its not that easy, but you will have fun. k bye. good luck
I'd just hang around and be friends with them and have them be friends with you. You will become confident in the company of guys while still hanging out with your friends. That way, when you find that special guy, you will be able to speak to him without as many butterflies. Remember, they are probably just as nervous around you at that age.
Have fun and enjoy your youth.Anyone got advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys? (if ur just gonna say im too young then dont answer)?
Your problem is you think to much. Simple as that.
I'm sixteen this worked great for me in jr. high I'm sure you kick a$$ at something and you feel on top of the world when you do your best like i do karate for example there are some ok looking guys in my class and it's easy to be shy think of it like this he's an opponent when i do it's all good they take me seriously and i can still be me and charming so see it like he'syour opponent or something make sure what ever it is you feel dominant and in charge just don't come on too strong. Feel dominant and confidence is your best friend
Its so cute that you are thinking about guys at your age, my sister around your age and is just getting into guys too. I congratulate you on your desicion on wating till you are married to you know what. Allright, well what you need to do is get a boyfriend. Go out with him for a long while, maybe 2 to 4 months, when you are done just flirt with your guy friends, and start learning how guys work, trust me, its not that easy, but you will have fun. k bye. good luck
GUYS AND GIRLS! Cybering... I've been such a tease... PLEASE HELP ME! 10 pts FOR THE BEST ADVICE!?
So I was dating this guy I go to university with over the spring semester. We got to know each other very well and got along excellently. Problem is, he is taking a summer semester abroad in Europe.
I talk to him online, and lately, the chats have gotten really racy. We've been cybering, but I'm honestly not comfortable doing some of the things we've talked about unless we were in a committed relationship. But I feel like I'm making it sound like I'll do anything whether or not its official.
How should I break it to him? In person, online, ASAP? I would do it... if we were together. I really need some good advise... guys, how would you take it the news?GUYS AND GIRLS! Cybering... I've been such a tease... PLEASE HELP ME! 10 pts FOR THE BEST ADVICE!?
Ya your leading him on just a tad. i'd tell him, but he will probably understand that saying something online is different than in person and he might even respect you for not jumping in. guys dont want a committed relationship with someone they think will jump in the sack with anyone. If you did he probably wouldnt stay with you, guys like to think they are one of the chosen few. I know my husband wouldnt have married me if he thought Id give it up to any guy. Just break the newsGUYS AND GIRLS! Cybering... I've been such a tease... PLEASE HELP ME! 10 pts FOR THE BEST ADVICE!?
email him that its fun to have a cyber fantasy life - that it allows you to pretend you'd do stuff that you'd never do in real life and asks if he enjoys the fantasy too? that way he'll know it's fantasy and you wont prolong the wrong message
I talk to him online, and lately, the chats have gotten really racy. We've been cybering, but I'm honestly not comfortable doing some of the things we've talked about unless we were in a committed relationship. But I feel like I'm making it sound like I'll do anything whether or not its official.
How should I break it to him? In person, online, ASAP? I would do it... if we were together. I really need some good advise... guys, how would you take it the news?GUYS AND GIRLS! Cybering... I've been such a tease... PLEASE HELP ME! 10 pts FOR THE BEST ADVICE!?
Ya your leading him on just a tad. i'd tell him, but he will probably understand that saying something online is different than in person and he might even respect you for not jumping in. guys dont want a committed relationship with someone they think will jump in the sack with anyone. If you did he probably wouldnt stay with you, guys like to think they are one of the chosen few. I know my husband wouldnt have married me if he thought Id give it up to any guy. Just break the newsGUYS AND GIRLS! Cybering... I've been such a tease... PLEASE HELP ME! 10 pts FOR THE BEST ADVICE!?
email him that its fun to have a cyber fantasy life - that it allows you to pretend you'd do stuff that you'd never do in real life and asks if he enjoys the fantasy too? that way he'll know it's fantasy and you wont prolong the wrong message
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