Thursday, July 29, 2010

Please answer mine?? girl problem and friend! i need advice for you guys..?

I have a huge problem here and I don't know what to do...





okay, here's the thing..





I'm going out with my friend ex-girlfriend, but they only dated online and only met once.





I met her first, we talked for at least 3 months..Back then, we did got close and we already like each other..





Until one day, My computer broke down...


then my friend add her on myspace....We stop talking for a while..





but while were not talking. my friend and her got close..so after 6 months. they got together....





At first, i didn't really care..I was proud of them..





then few months later, my friend started not talking to her..





and while she's in suffering, I was there..


when she needed help i was there.


when she needed someone to talk to i was there...





I again really close to her again..


and I got to know her pretty much....





my friend wasn't talking to her for 3 weeks and don't give her explanation why..3 weeks, 2 weeks until she got tired of it.


and ask him..if they still going out or if they break up? he said ';its up to you';..so she break up..





when they break up, I was talking to her still.





after 5 months of us talking again..we got close and got together..I met her few times than my friend. I didn't ask her out in internet.


Because I want to her birthday party and I kissed her..thats how we got together...





but after I kiss her...





of course i showed some respect to my friend.





I asked him if its okay to holla at he's ex-gf and he said it was okay...


so i really did....


but now, we are going out..


.


my friend and my other friends too that friend with us. they mad at me?


not all of them but only him and my other friend dude..





I don't get it why my other friend is into this and its not even his business...





now weren't talking. They are getting all butthurt now...because she got hella pretty..Actually she was nice and everything..I Dont get it why ppl would do that to her..she deserve better...





They are jealous of me and everything now..


they wont talk to me...


but sometimes, they would text her ';why you choose one if you can have both of em'; got me mad..





I think if your a true friend, you would be between two of your friends and not only to one friend...





i showed some respect.but i aint getting any..


I ask him if its okay and i told him myself that we are going out.


what should i do?? advice here please thanks..


sorry its way too late.Please answer mine?? girl problem and friend! i need advice for you guys..?
it seems like their all jealous


or theres something else going on behind the scenes that you dont know about


so you can ask your friends if they know anything that you should know


but if not then continue to go on your way dating herPlease answer mine?? girl problem and friend! i need advice for you guys..?
It seems, they just butthurt that they lost thier chance


AFTER she got pretty?





seems like horrible friends to me





What i suggest is have a real heart to heart with your girl


sit her down, to talk about it





tell her, something like


I dont mind if you actually still like him, i'll always be here for you


but i wont stick around if you decide to stay with both of us





if she truely likes you, then she would stay with you, if she doesnt, then maybe its not worth it to be involved in this relationship if both sides arent happy





theres also the risk of her just getting more confused and dont know what to do








But this is totally on you and how you word it,


there is no real ';answer'; to love, gotta figure it out on your own


but i wish you the best of luck


Internet relationships arent the best of relationships, but it can work out

Guys, what advice do you have for a girl that is intelligent but doesn't turn any heads?

Why does beauty seem to be the defining factor in what attracts guys to women. I'm a 23 year old female - I believe that I'm friendly and easy to get along with, but I've never had a date before. I'm in graduate school and I used to think it was just my lack of time that was preventing me from finding anyone, but there amongst a group of very busy, educated females, the more attractive one always gets the dates. Guys, what advice do you have for a girl that does not necessarily turn any heads from guys? I'm striving to get into medical school, so I'm quite busy as it is, but sometimes I get a bit down about my situation.Guys, what advice do you have for a girl that is intelligent but doesn't turn any heads?
just be yourself. And you said that ur going to medical school, so graduate become a doctor or something then guys would be all over you. lots of guys think nurses and doctors are hot. so for now just be yourself.

Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?

Question is pretty straight-forward. Here it is again: Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?





Obviously I'll get some answers like ';oh, he has to be compassionate.. and sweet.. and handsome..'; but I want to see more than that. An example --%26gt; A guy that is good to his mother will be good to his wife.





Put your thinking caps on.Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Hi, I've kissed a lot of frogs in my day so therefore I think this is exactly my area of expertise.





Make sure he has a similar religion to yours, all kinds of problems can result if you are Christian (for instance) and he is something else.





Lying and cheating and battering (be it physical or mental), I do not put up with at all (anymore), but I had to learn that the hard way. Save yourself the trouble, by observing closely if he has these tendencies. If you see he does, then dump him like a hot potato immediately, because that behavior is in his genes and CANNOT change (even for you), no matter how much he professes his love or commitment to you, he will never change, because he CANNOT HELP IT!!!





Watch C %26amp; I - A LOT - it will put enough fear in you to make you extra careful about how you meet guys. Always meet in a PUBLIC area and never go home with them or take them home until you are absolutely sure what you are dealing with. Never give out your telephone numbers or home/ work address until you are absolutely sure what you are dealing with. Im my youth it was still safe to do so but not anymore.





Read the book: ';He's Just Not That Into You';, the author was on the Oprah show a while back. His thoughts are right on target!





DO a proper study of his family before you get involved, if his family are awful, you will always hit your head against a brick wall, especially if he is dead loyal to them and not you.





Check out his relationship with his mother in particular. If she has too much of a hold on him or he is having a problem letting go of her apron strings, then you are going to run into another kind of brick wall. Steer well clear of ';Mummy's Boys';.





Find out ahead of time if he ever wants to have children, to avoid disappointment later. See how he is with children and animals.





If he takes drugs or drinks like a fish that is going to be unlikely to change and neither will you ever be able to change that, because they just get more and more addicted. Trust me, I KNOW all the problems and pitfalls that come with that. Your life is turned upside down in such a relationship, because the man's whole personality changes for the worse whenever under the influence or high, and the man does nasty things he wouldn't normally do if he was clean.





I tried a relationship across the colour bar (which proves I am not racist). For me it didn't work, because our two cultures were too different. His culture was very drug and gangster orientated and my culture was very drug free and law abiding. Steer well clear of gangsters, or the mob, your whole life with become a mess if you hang around with that.





Most relationships fall apart because of money. Check out if he is a miser or if he spends his money like it's coming out of fashion. Either way it won't help you in the future. He needs to be balanced and sensible/ reasonable in this area.





If you have more questions or you want more advice feel free to e-mail me, as I have loads of experience with men.Seasoned women: What advice can you give to teenage girls, concerning guys and what to look for in them?
Girls are often attracted to the 'dangerous' type of guy, the boy who's the rebel and has a bad attitude toward authority. At the risk of freaking out the feminists, the reason lies in the feminine desire to have a strong, more domineering mate. But reality is that these are usually the guys who are the losers in school and in life. So you have to set your sites higher is you want a better chance at a better life. So avoid the losers and go for the guys who care about education, their appearance and have high standards. Start dating losers and you'll end up married to one and clawing your way through life.
Don't just look at the surface by noticing how good looking he is. Yes, young guys are cute and attractive, but try to see behind the flesh and bones. Try to see how they cope in an extreme situation Do they buckle under pressure, or do they lose their temper, or run away. Are they brave? Will they stand up to a bullying person? Will they take pity on a poor person who is begging in the street? Will they help an elderly woman cross the road? Will they keep their promises or will they break them and then make poor excuses for having broken them? You have to be an astute observer!
I hang out on YA in the relationship departments because I find the questions and answers very interesting.


What I have observed is that most people are just clueless about the opposite sex.


Finding our mate should happen after we find ourselves. We need to make sure that we are doing the right things in life so that we attract the right type of people to our mix. If you are doing the wrong things, then you will surely attract the wrong guy or gal.






Not much to add but how does he treat authority -





Parents


School


Governments - all levels





Is he up to the challenge of making changes? The world is not a constant.





What is his work ethic?





How is he around little kids and animals?





And was mentioned, how does he treat other females in his life - mother, sisters, grandmothers, etc.





Is he flirty with others when with you? A BIG NO-NO.





Does he have a sense of humor?





And is his mind above the gutter? VERY IMPORTANT.
Um correction just because a guy is good to his mommy doesn't mean he wont try to kill his GF! Psycho has taught me well. As long as he has a job and a car and doesn't still call his mom...mommy then you go for him! The shy quiet guys are the freakiest! The ones that look really really hot are either gay or full of themselves or harbor many STD's. Go for the guy that is laid back and funny but knows how to be a little serious too.
Well I guess Id advise a teenage girl to look for a guy that wasnt constantly trying to get in her knickers or use her as a ';trophey'; girlfriend, and to go for a guy that whilst might not be the coolest or hottest guy in school - but one that would treat her with respect.


xx
I think it's been pretty much covered now, PP - particularly well by Angelmusic, in my opinion, since she skipped the waffle and got right to several very salient points.


It only remains for me to give you that star, mate!
I'd say go out with a guy who will respect you for your morals and treats you with respect. Don't get some drop out who has nothing to offer you but what is in his pants.
Inner Happiness - Bigger dick than wallet.


Material Happiness - Bigger wallet than dick.






hmmm, well he has to make me laugh :D


PS. i love Peter Petrelli, lol Heroes rocks!!
Not sure I fully answer the description ';seasoned woman'; since I'm only 30, but maybe I'm not *that* long out of my teens and that'll help :)





Teenage girls are very sensitive to looks. Which isn't a bad thing, but obviously you have to see a bit further than that. He mainly I think needs to be kind.


Kindness and respect are the most important things at that age. You're not looking for a life partner, but you need someone who respects you.


Around 14/15, boys will obviously start thinking about sex, in my experience girls take a little longer. So if he does anything you're not comfortable with, make him stop. If he gets in a mood, or threatens to dump you if you don't have sex with him, run away!!! It's the sign of a controlling personality, and that's never a good thing.


He should also respect your tastes and choices. He should like you for who you are, so even if he doesn't like the same music, he shouldn't tell you off for liking what you like. He shouldn't try to change the way you dress either: you are who you are, and clothes are a big part of someone's personality. If he says: I don't think this suits you, then fine, he's merely expressing an opinion. If he says: you look like a tramp in this: not fine!


He should also like (or at least get on with) you friends. If your friends don't like him, it's a bad sign, especially if you've known your friends for a long time, they know you very well and can tell if someone is making you unhappy.


Going back to the ';sex'; problem, there is no right or wrong thing to do, as long as you're ok with it. If you're ok with him touching your boobs, then why not; if you're ok touching him, fine. But never EVER ever do anything you're not comfortable with. If he gets angry, leave him. Your body is important, and your needs come first, not his. He should understand that if he really likes you. Sex is a very important part of later relationships, and bad experiences when you're young can affect your sex life later. Wait until you're ready, and only do it with someone you like and trust, preferably someone you've been with for a little while, who understands and likes you. If your friends are doing it, if his friends are doing it, it doesn't matter. People mature at different rates.





There we go, that was my bit of advice. I think others have said interesting things as well, so I won't repeat them :)






Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?

I'm 13, 5'4';,chubby,dark blonde-light brown hair, green eyes, and a fair complexion with naturally rosy cheeks. I know that I'm pretty and can be confident at times, but then I see one of the guys I like (there are many, but i dont want to go farther than making out before i get married) and I just melt and put up walls and start feeling like I could never be good enough for them (I happen to like the preppy popular jocks, lucky me... *rolls eyes*). When I'm around guys I like I just become this shy, meek little lamb. I become the ';yes'; girl instead of who I really am. How can I get over that and get one of them to like me? Oh, but I dont only go for preppy popular guys. There's also a musician who plays guitar, sings, and writes songs in my grade that I like.Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?
Advice: Don't change yourself for a guy. Don't leave your friends for a guy. Don't feel like you're trapped in a relationship. Only date someone you really feel you have potential with.





As for your shyness, that's pretty normal. There's not really a way to fix it, but you can try to tell yourself that you need to be yourself instead of trying to be someone who they'll like, even if you're not. That just leads to heartbreak. Personal experience. Whoever likes you, likes you. If none of those guys do, then keep looking. There's someone out there for you. As for asking guys out, that you have to do on your own, and I know how difficult that can be when you're shy, believe me. If you want, you can ask over the internet, or ask through a friend, but that loses a personal touch. It's up to you. Luck to you in all your relationships.Any advice for a 13 yr old girl about guys?
You know, the reason is because you are young and also shy. When you are a little older you will become non-shy and will be able to start talking to all guys. I would say to wait till college and start dating, don't let dating interfere with school. Believe me, boyfriends and breaking up, drama will put a BIG effect on you, I have seen this through a lot on my friends who are guys and girls.
flush out your head gear honey your way to young
Just take it slow. You sound like your head is on very straight.
I would say just work up the courage and ask him/them out. Trust me im 15 and shy. i try to ask guys, it wont always work,but just give it a try. good luck!

GIRL ADVICE!!!!!!!!! is there hope for nicer guys?

I've notticed in school that girls mostly only give jerks, douchbags, and assholes a chance. How come the nicer more decent guys are not given a chance. If anything they'll be treated better by them. Are girls that shallow that they prefer jerks and asshole guys? this is beginning to dissapoint me, do girls like being treated like dirt by other guys. What do more decent nicer guys have to do to be liked more my them? What do nice guys have to do to get them interested?GIRL ADVICE!!!!!!!!! is there hope for nicer guys?
Girls are complicated, as you and I both know. But there is an answer for everything. The reason why girls tend to go for guys that act worse towards them is actually common sense believe it or not. Just like guys, girls like competition and get more satisfaction from things if they have work for them, rather than if they are just handed them, after they get them. Its human nature, and this is why jerks tend to get the girls. For example if you hold a ball of string above a cat, just above its reach, it will keep trying very hard to get it, but once you put that ball on the ground the cat will start to get bored of it and eventually leave. This is why nice guys don't get very many chances with girls, because the girls get bored of them. I know it seems weird, but its true. Now I'm not saying that nice guys won't get chances, but once they start to go out with a girl, and the girl notices how nice they are to them all of the time, the girl will get bored and leave them, or worse she will cheat. This is the same with us man. If you have a girl who does everything for you and shes always complimenting you and being nice to you, you WILL start to get bored of her believe it or not. This is why you shouldn't be too nice to girls, now don't be an asshole, but don't be nice either. You have to find that happy medium where you are kinda nice, but at the same time you are sort of pushing her away. Its complicated, but I'm telling you if you try it, you WILL see a difference in the way that girls respond to you. Trust me.


Well anyway I hope this helps man.


Good LuckGIRL ADVICE!!!!!!!!! is there hope for nicer guys?
There are girls that like great guys. Chances are if you're a decent guy though, it'll be the more shy girls that will like you. And you'll have to make the first move. But just a small tip, most nice girls that are interested in decent guys prefer them not to cuss. Which is mostly why they don't go for the jerks.
You have to be yourself. I'm a girl and can not STAND it when my friends go out with those types because I'm always the one who said '; Dump his @ss'; and the one who has to fix them when he breaks up with her brutally. Girls like to date what they think are 'bad boys'. But assholes definatly aren't that type. There is hoipe for nice guys! When you have chicks like me who like a gentlemen and not a douchbag. Keep looking there are sensible chicks out there.
not all girls are like that. they are just attracted to how independent and ';different'; these guys are. they like having a challenge because they think they will be the one that can change this guy. but they soon realize that its just not meant to be, and then start going for the nice guys.


as a nice guy, dont be a doormat. dont do whatever she wants. you have a mind of your own. be a gentleman and nice, but don't overdo it. ur not her slave. girls usually dismiss nice guys as boring and spineless, so you want to change their perception of you and be the complete opposite.


just wait, girls will figure out that nice guys are better for them.
THIS IS THE BIG MYSTERY OF HIGH SCHOOL, HONEY.


YOU'LL FIND THAT THE EXTERIOR OF THE BOOK IS OFTEN MORE STUDIED THAN THE ACTUAL BOOK ITSELF.


YOU KNOW WHO'S NICE AND WHO'S A PLAIN JERK.


KARMA GETS THE MAN WHO DESERVES WHAT HE'S DONE.


WHICH IS EVERYONE.


KARMA KNOWS WHEN BEAUTY AND BRONZE HAS ITS PLACE %26amp; IT ALSO KNOWS WHEN INTELLIGENCE AND WELL MANORED MEN HAVE ITS PLACE.


THE WORLD WILL CORRESPOND WITH THIS WHEN EVERYONE SEES BEYOND THE MOMENT AND INTO THE WONDERS OF TOMORROW OR PAST THE MOMENT.
Your Miss. Right will come.


Just be patient.


Honestly for me being a girl I only date nice guys not jerks, jocks only polite guys. Don't waste your time getting those girls who date those guys to be with you. You don't deserve a shallow girl like that. The time will come.
Well I mean in school i go for the nice guys i can't stand jerks,etc. But some girls honestly care about the looks,the guys social status,how he treats her when their alone. But I mean hang in there there is someone out there perfect and waiting just for you!
girls like different types of guys





just think of it like this stupid girls go for stupid guys





and yes they are shallow





i go for cute guys cause i think woowwww their soooo adorable then they end up cheating on me like every other amazingly hot guy





but theres some cute nice guys also :]





just depends i guess
I like nicer guys but I've noticed that too. Even my friends go for jerks. Nice guys just have to wait until they find the right girl. I am a nice girl just waiting to find the right guy. The cards work both ways I guess.....
lol someone else just asked this question!!!





I think as girls get older and mature then they go for other things like unjerkish things not just thrills that jerks just want...
Yes I am nice and many girls wanna date me. But I love some who doesn't like me more than as a friend.
i don't date jerks, i look for sweet, caring guys
They seem funner.
  • jane iredale
  • Tuesday, July 27, 2010

    Do you guys have any makeup advice for a blonde curly haired girl???i need it realy bad!!!:[?

    I'm assuming you have light skin. I would strongly recommend you avoid black anything. Unless you want that strung out druggie look--some people like it. Black is harder to do for blonds, and a lot of people don't consider it a daytime look. If you really want to try black eyeliner, don't do a straight line; smudge it a little with a makeup sponge. You could go cheap for smudging eyeliner, but I would suggest you buy high quality sponges for foundation, if you wear it.





    If you're new to makeup, I would go with a blackbrown mascara, a brown eyeliner, a pinky blush, a large blush brush, and some colored lipgloss. Lipgloss is easier than lipstick, and you really need a large blush brush to get the blush on right. Start at your apples (the part of your cheek that is biggest when you smile) and brush to your hairline--go up when you brush it out. Unless you want your eyes to look smaller, NEVER put eyeliner on your inner lid, put it under your eyes only. I wouldn't recommend lining your upper eye yet, it can be tricky. And most people use liquid for the upper eye, which I never got the hang of.Do you guys have any makeup advice for a blonde curly haired girl???i need it realy bad!!!:[?
    use dark colarsDo you guys have any makeup advice for a blonde curly haired girl???i need it realy bad!!!:[?
    Try any of these tips.


    Go heavy (not like a clown) on the eyemakeup but very natural on everything else.





    If using black eyeliner go light on the rest of the makeup. All natural.





    Apply pink blush to the apples of cheeks, use a feminine (pinkish,not too pink) eyeshadow and a shiney lipgloss. Go light on the eyeliner or wear none at all (just mascara). Very pretty.


    Try very pretty eyeshadows


    http://www.barely-there-mineral-makeup.c鈥?/a>

    NEED REASONABLE ADVICE. Is it ok for a girl that likes me and vice versa to do stuff with another guy?

    Ok so I have an issue and I need all the advice and opinions from others, so please, WELL THOUGHTOUT answers only.





    I have been friends with this girl for 8 months now. We know each other very very well and know everything about about one another. We both began to like each other but didnt date. Eventually we liked each other even more and we still didnt date. To try to keep this short, she ended up doing stuff with my best friend. They both knew about it and wouldnt tell me because they knew I would be upset. I confronted her about it, and she feels she didnt do anything wrong because we were dating. But We both like each other more then anyone else.





    Do you think it was ok for her to fool around with my best friend and not tell me even though we both really really liked each other and were planning to go out?





    She she said that she was to busy with school to date (were all 18+) but who isnt you know? She also admits to cheating on every other boyfriend she had.NEED REASONABLE ADVICE. Is it ok for a girl that likes me and vice versa to do stuff with another guy?
    your best friend sold you out man... he knew it all along and he took the opportunity to fool with her.





    Girls on the other hand..... will go for anyone that gives them attention and whoever makes the move on her.


    It takes two to tango, so it's both your friend and the girl's fault...





    leave your friend, leave the girl.. you don't need back stabbers in your circle.. think about it, she isn't worth it in the long run, it just shows the truth about her. Don't even bother making her apologies, hold your head high and brush it off... don't let s.h.i.t.s like that affect you.NEED REASONABLE ADVICE. Is it ok for a girl that likes me and vice versa to do stuff with another guy?
    get a new girl


    for goodness sake


    she had foresaken u replaced you with your best bud


    bros before whor3s dude?
    Why on earth would you want a girl who has admitted to cheating on every other boyfriend she's had? If she really cared about you, she would never have done anything with your best friend.





    My advice is to forget about her. She would be nothing but trouble, and you could never trust her.





    Your best friend wasn't much of a friend either if he knew you liked this girl. Best friends don't do that.





    Find some new friends. There are plenty of people out there! Good luck!
    If she wasn't going out with you neither her or your friend did anything wrong. Personally I think you should be a bit more mature about it.
    I would find another girlfriend who is loyal, hangs with me, is honest and does not want to be around other guys.





    Girls like that are cheap, they want lots of guys to be close to, make bad girlfriends and end up in trouble.





    She is not good for you.
    First of all you can not make her do anything, and getting he to admit she was wrong is not a victory for you she now thinks you are a jerk. If you liked her some much you should not have beat around the bush and just came out and asked her. She did nothing wrong.





    She was either never planning on going out with you or wanted by best friend all along and was using you to get to him. She was using a very lame reason not to go out with you (she had time for him didn't she?) Dump her and move on, your friend is not at fault either. Blame this one on your blind lust for her and you not being able to see anything past it.
    I think this girl is having you on. I also think you should have made a move to be exclusive by now anyway if you are that important to each other - she's not going to hang around forever. She didn't really do anything wrong if you haven't agreed to be exclusive, however, it would seem to me she can't be as keen on you as vice versa. Would you have fooled around with someone else? Obviously, your best friend a) isn't b) made a move on her. Would you have done that to your 'best friend'? No way. They both knew you woudl be upset, and did it anyway. Forget the both of them would be my advice. You deserve someone who likes you as much and in the same way as you like them. If she cheats on every boyfriend ........ she'll cheat on you. Move on and be glad you aren't serious with this girl. If they are serious about each other, well, that happens, and you may decide to stay friend, but it all depends how honestly they go about it.
    I think if you really liked each other, you would be together, no excuses.


    It was disrespectful of her, and your friend to mess around considering they both know how you feel.


    You can't make someone apologise. If they are sorry they will do it all on their own.


    Basically she doesn't seem to be very mature, and obviously she can't commit - once a cheater, always a cheater. Honestly I don't think she's worth it.

    I have a question for the guys...or even the girls if they have some good advice...?

    so i feel really lame asking, but i cant figure it out myself. there is this kid at my school, and he is pretty cute and really funny and recently single and i want to know how i can get his attention. we kinda know each other from a class we had together a last semester, but we haven't ever hung out or anything. everytime i see him he is really nice and says hi or gives me a look and gives me the nod or soemthing, and if i see him in the parking lot after school he will throw snowballs at my car or soemthing. i know that he notices me, like notice the fact that i am there, but i want him to NOTICE me, if you know what i mean. or do you think i should just make the first move? idk....thats why im asking lol.





    thanks :)I have a question for the guys...or even the girls if they have some good advice...?
    He NOTICES you. He is just shy. MAKE THE FIRST MOVE, and the second and the third. Get some courrage. Just go up to him and say





    ';I am going to xxxxx coffee shop after school, would you like to come, we could share a xxxxxx.';





    If this does not work once, he may just be suprized, give him a couple of days to think about it and try it again.





    Have a fixed time to meet so you are not left hanging. Take enough money to pay for both of your coffees.





    If you are nervous have something worked out that you want to talk to him about.





    I suggest you think up a question to ask him, like ';I know you are smart and her is my problem, my parents say.....................................鈥?but I think ........................, what do you think?I have a question for the guys...or even the girls if they have some good advice...?
    stop frontin and go talk to him...friendly flirt wth him....make the first move b4 another girl does...
    I would go talk to him.. come up with a witty comment or something. He's doing this to get your attention and wants you to go talk to him. It won't hurt anything.. just have confidence in yourself. Guys love confidence! Good luck, but do approach him.

    Any hot guys out there? I need your advice for a lonely girl!?

    I am going to a party on sat. and how should I dress, do my hair, and make up to make a guy be like,'; wow she looks really hot '; and really notice me... anything else i should do????? please keep in mind im only a freshman in high school. also... any kissing tips? what do girls do that make them good kissers?Any hot guys out there? I need your advice for a lonely girl!?
    Alright i got this.


    wear some nice make-up with colors that are pretty but dont make people blind if you know what i mean lol. As for your hair just do it the way that you feel you look the most atractive in, for some girls its straight or up or whatever, their is no certain hair style that turns guys on its just how good you pull it off. Wear a little pretty dress to show your body, but dont make it to short otherwise people could mistake you for a you know what.


    After you look like a stunner you need to smell like one to


    so just use a bit of a light smelling perfume.


    Most guys wont judge you on the way you kiss just dont shove your tongue way down their throat and you will be great.


    Im sure you will look very pretty and have a blast =P.Any hot guys out there? I need your advice for a lonely girl!?
    Depends on what kind of guys you want to attract. Dressing nice is one thing, but dressing like your easy is just going to attract the wrong ones.
    1. DONT WEAR TOO MUCH MAKEUP. then ur just ugly.


    2. for kissing: have u tried the cherry stem thing?


    3. uhh... wear something nice?








    im done. good luck
    It would help if you posted a photo, so I could give you better info.





    Go see a hair stylist, they will hook you up on the hair.


    As for clothes, guys like a girl in a sexy short skirt and high heals, red lip stick is best.
    Do your best to look nice and be you. If you want to get his attention, talk to him. Show an interest, be a little flirty, and hint at why he has your attention. Massage his ego a little. All you should do with your physical appearance is make it evident that you put in your best effort to look your best. Your best doesn't mean showing cleavage or a short skirt, or lots of make up. Actually, a lot of guys get turned off by too much make up, it makes girls look cheap.
    im 17 been to a few partys its alrite if u show some cleavage but not alot otherwise theyll think your desperate gd luck! play it cool
    You're a freshman in high school. Case closed. Sorry, I don't think children should be asking for kissing tips or how to look ';hot';.
    Ever since juior high I've always tried to get my gf to dress hot so I bet I have got some ideas you can use.





    Get some BRIGHT color for your top (or if you are tanned, wear white)





    TIGHT or LOOSE


    - if you have a nice butt then put on tight jeans OR better still white of near-white pants that will ride up and show your crack and the shape of your buns





    - tight works well if you have big ones or if your nips are big enough to poke through the top TUBE TOPS are hot !!





    - loose skirts look hot when the girl wears a thong or nothing because it shows when her butt jiggles ;-)





    - loose tops are great because you can undo some of the buttons and keep the guys playing 'peak-a-boo' to see if you are wearing a bra (bonus points if you don't)





    - tight or loose, a REALLY hot thing is SHORT tops that show off your stomach, belly button





    - BEND OVER sometimes when you think guys are looking


    (pretend to fix your shoe or something)





    - wear little or no make-up but lip gloss looks hot at night because it reflects the light and because it makes you lips looks wet (great to kiss!! )


    - speaking of kissing, make a point of opening your mouth and dragging your tongue across your teeth and lips





    - most guys prefer straight hair compared to up-do











    - as soon as you get to the party try to find a place close to the fridge because everybody goes there and this gets you a chance to see them AND gives then a chance to see YOU.





    - when you see them for the first time say something nice to them and smile. Look them in the eyes.





    - look interested in their clothes. Say that you like the fabric and touch it making comments. Heck, you could do this for the guy's hair too.





    - after spending a couple of hours at the fridge go into the living room and sit down





    - choose either the sofa beside people OR, if there are some guys already sitting on the sofa, sit on the FLOOR right in front of them (They will enjoy looking down at your beautiful clothes and hair - especially if you look hot. Face them so they can check out your top.)





    - tell one of the boys that you're tired and ask him to rub your shoulders (guys will not be able to resist.) Say ';That feels good. Can you play with my hair too?';





    - if there is any dancing, squeeze tightly and stroke his back and tease his bum (bet he will do the same to you)











    Hope that helps......
    one of ways to get attentions from a guy is by make them see you... you can try wear dress they haven't see yet.. this is also can be applied to your hair style....about the kissing tips, let me tell you: a sincere kiss comes from a sincere heart... so you can only be a good kisser if you kiss him because you really want to kiss him....ok,hava a nice day=)
    your only a freshman in highschool


    you do not want to involve in this kinda stuff, you'll regret it later


    take it easy there is no rush
    the best guy who doesnt want to have sex with you as soon as he sees you is a guy who can appreciate you in a t-shirt and jeans... makeup sucks bigtime, so dont wear any makeup... lip gloss is okay, but not too much... loose hair or a ponytail is awesome! u really dont need to kiss a guy to be awesome... a peck on the cheek is enough if ur not in a relationship...





    good luck


    ^_^
    wearing a little bit of make-up and wearing a tight shirt and tight pants
    haha. obviously im not a guy but im going to answer the question anyways. :] umm i think you should wear something very fashionable and definetely have your hair down and straightened. clothes...maybe wear a denim skirt with heels and a cute top? good luck at the party!
    go tanning
    sounds like someone's looking for some action. Freshman in high school is a little young to be dressing ';hot';





    Dress pretty %26amp; respectful. And there's different ways to kiss. Ask me again in a few years.
    Guys will notice you whatever you wear. Dress how you wanna dress. Men are like dogs (it's the truth i am one myself).





    Non-serious answer: wear as little as possible preferably in you underwear, don't just kiss the lips (if you know what im saying).

    You might think i'm a stupid girl for asking but i like this guy who i've never talked to..advice?

    i have a crush on someone i never saw in real life, so i understand ya!^^





    try to start a conversation with him, and get to know him! you can never know what happens, and even if you make a mistake or two in the 1st talk out of excitement, if he's someone that deserves love, he won't make a big deal of it^^ just don't seem obsessive or act too annoying, be yourself and relax! you've got nothing to lose and much to learn from that kind of an experience:)You might think i'm a stupid girl for asking but i like this guy who i've never talked to..advice?
    u should start a conversation with him and then go from there and see where it goes yall might even hook upYou might think i'm a stupid girl for asking but i like this guy who i've never talked to..advice?
    No, No, No. I have liked many guys that i have never talked to. Let him know that you are interested in him, flirt a little, just don't chase him or act obsessive. Eventually, something may spark.

    I need ur help real fast!!!!! (girls only) and (guys if ur good advice giver then go for it)?

    ok this girl that i like is hot,nice,friendly or just for short percfect! but the problem is me.....i flirt with her alot and she flirt back...but today me and her just flirt all day then i was walking in the hallway with her then she was going to her next class then i saw her hugging someone like she's her boyfriend and i felt something crushed me inside.....i dont know why im feeling this way....i know i do like her but idk if she like me back...wat should i do? should i just let it go or just keep fighting for it?(pls give me some good advice and fast!!)I need ur help real fast!!!!! (girls only) and (guys if ur good advice giver then go for it)?
    just go up to her and ask her if she likes you. that's what i would do if it was a guy. i wouldn't beat around the bush either. some girls can't stand that. i have some friends that don't. and just tell her that u like her and if she has a bf. just be blunt and if she plays mysterious just flirt extensively with her. or act like u ain't interested . depends on wat type of girl she is. if she's flirting then act like u ain't interested. if she acts like she's not gonna tell u then she's actin mysterious. then u MUST flirt alot with her. that is wat i would do so just go with it. TRUST me. alot of my friends go to me with advice and i always give them good advice so i hope this helps. GOOD LUCK DUDE!I need ur help real fast!!!!! (girls only) and (guys if ur good advice giver then go for it)?
    i would keep fighting for it till she sees that your the one
    alright man all you gotta do is ask her if she has a man thats the first question you ask a fine hot good loking chick just tell her how you feel about her but ask her the question first does she have a man becuase if she do you might be crying at night sometimes even sadd asss hell but just ask her man thats all you gotta do in a nice way though and tell her
    Id say to totally keep fighting until u know she has a boyfriend
    okay if you really like this girl and you know deep down in your heat that she is the one for you then dont let her go, tell her how you feel or have one of your friends or her friends tell her for you,if she flirts back then she likes you as well. talk it over with some of her friends and find out if she has someone and ask them how she feels about you, i am a female and i know that if i like a guy and i flirt with him and he does the same that means that i am just waiting for the moment for him to ask me to be with him , so go get her and good luck (dont let her go fight for what you think that is yours)
    You have been harboring your feelings for this girl for a long time. That is why you reacted the way you did. I truly believe that people need to put a moratorium on how long you can flirt with someone until true feelings are established. You have a choice. You can let it go and continue to flirt with her. This may drive you crazy as you don't have casual ha ha feelings for her. Or you can lay it on the line with her. The risk is that it could blow up in your face. You would live in a wold of unrequited love but at least know that she knows how you feel about her. My advice? Go for it. If she says no, then you will know that she is not as perfect as you think.
    you need to let her know you are REALLY interested, and not just casually flirting.
    Do you know if she is dating him?





    Well it sounds like she is just a flirtatious person, so it might not mean anything that she hugged him, OR that she flirts with you. Sorry.





    But to be sure...I'd ask her if she has a b/f, and if she wants one (if she says yes, ask her out)
    whoa whoa whoa.


    a hug doesnt always mean somethings going on.


    shes a nice and friendly girl you said it urself, tons of girls hug their guy friends.


    if you like her that much just talk to her.


    you guys flirt she has to know something like this is coming.


    she prolly already knows you like her.
    dont quit.. do something sweet for her.. it can ever be as small as writing ';you beautiful'; on a peice of paper, crumpeling it up and giving it to her.. girls LOVEE those things. you can beat this guy you just got to win her over!! good luck buddy
    first find out if she is dating him cuz otherwise you might be crushed for no reason. well chances are if she is goin out w/ him it prolly wont last too long. so keep fighting so when the moments rite you can have her.
    don't do anything at first, wait and see what happens but be your normal self to her. ask around to see if maybe it is her bf and if not act on your feelings. if it is her bf stay her friend because you just never know, that may not last long and then your in!
    keep fighting for it.. she is flirting back right? so seems like you guys have chemistry.
    i would say keep fighting for it. it seems like she likes you..so take it up a notch or two.
    ok, u may deny it, but ur Jelous. Yup. :)


    girls hug alot of guys that they are JUST FRiENDS with, so dont let it go to ur head.


    wen ur talking to her, ask her if she likes anyone? if she says ya, but doesnt wanna tell u, it might be you.


    also notice her body language wen she is around you (especially the biting the lips factor, lol), compared to other guys she might hang out with.





    hope i helped





    good luck :)
    find out who the guy is first then if he is her boyfriend, dont try to get in the way or she might get mad. but if he's not, then keep fighting for her!
    she has friends you dn't need the ugly head of jealousy to come up. talk to her if you are upset but remember that jealousy is not love and that is sad.
    Keep fighting for it! Some girls like two guys at the same time, but there is always one ahead of the other! It sounds like you could be the one that is ahead. I have liked two guys at the same time but there is always one that just wins me over. I think you need to keep fighting because if you don't, she will wonder what's wrong and turn to the other guy.
    keep going. Don't assume she has a bf just because she's hugging someone. Let her be the one to tell you that she's unavaiable. If you're both flirting all day long, then she's leading you on. She's not a very good person if she's leading you on and she's unavailable. Even if she has a b/f, she'll just gently let you know that she isn't available, it wont be crushing or anything.





    You have nothing to lose, go for it!
  • jane iredale
  • I need some advice and some opinions for my girl. She had a baby by a guy within the first year of dating.?

    There wasn't nothing he wouldn't do for her. Then she picked up and left for 6 weeks due to housing/family problems. When she came back he was a different person and he won't take care of her child. He found another girl and he started beating on her and he didn't treat my friend in such manner. She doesn't understand why he is abandoning her child and still with this other girl for two years. This has broken her spirit and self worth. How should she handle this and from a man's point of view, what's up with this guy. He won't come see his child or call. My friend is a stong, independent girl in her early twenties with her own place. This other girl is younger with a car.I need some advice and some opinions for my girl. She had a baby by a guy within the first year of dating.?
    Is he paying child support?





    Seems like he's moved on........doesn't care about the past, (even his responsibilities)





    I'd advise her to move on, don't look for him to be something he's not.








    Luck





    The child support comment is because people like that seem great, will go out and ruin someones life, then their answer is commonly, ';It;s not my fault, problem, responsibility............';





    Well........it is, the State will help him see that it is.I need some advice and some opinions for my girl. She had a baby by a guy within the first year of dating.?
    Could be that he is upset that she had left, and didn't say anything to him at all. She needs to find a way of raising her own child, and forget about him. She also needs to go to court, and don't let him get visitation for his child at all. She needs him to pay child support since he isn't support his own child, and has become a totally jerk.
    What is his background like? In other words, show me his father and I'll show you him in a few years. There is no excuse for what this person has done, was going to call him young man......... but he isn't owed that respect....... a Man doesn't abandon his child ... no matter what. If he beats woman, he will certainly abuse the child.. I know this is hard to hear but she should thank her lucky stars that he isn't in her life for right now.


    Has her father raised her to where she knows her self-worth, she needs counseling and if you care for her ... please tell her it's not only for her but for her child's future.


    Shiny new toys always attract the immature male that can't respect himself much less anyone else. He's acting out , and until he grows up he's no good to her or that child.


    Love doesn't hurt, Love is kind.... tell her to love herself to life and get herself together for her little family... and be blessed he's someone elses mistake.

    For all the guys!~this girl needs advice!?

    i would just like to know how in the heck guys like to be approached by a girl. i always end up saying stupid stuff. i NEVER have anything good to say. i get so nervous..When it comes to appearance, what are u looking for? all most guys want are girls that are super skinny like runway models... i dont know why..like get to know the girl first// is making eye contact good? What do you like to talk about when it comes to girls? i havent yet and probably will never know the male language or mind. i need a bf so hit me up with some tips! hahaFor all the guys!~this girl needs advice!?
    Confidence is a killer! If a girl comes up to me confident and looks me in the eye and smiles, I can't resist. Looks are important too, but every guy is different about what he's looking for. Be confident and bowl him over!For all the guys!~this girl needs advice!?
    Well just be smooth. And you don't have to do much either. If you just make it clear to him that you like him, he'll come to you.
    You should just flirt, we love a girl who flirts, and make normal eye contact, talking mmm, see what they are talking at the moment and make a coment about it, it really doesn't matter if you say something stupid if you flirt.

    Guys wuts a sexy color for a girls room? im redoing it...any advice that u like in ur gf room?

    Guys don't care what color your walls are. If he cares more about the color of your wall than he cares about you, then you are doing it wrong.Guys wuts a sexy color for a girls room? im redoing it...any advice that u like in ur gf room?
    Deep and dark colors. Like a heavy indigo or hammered red. Something mysterious. Avoid black: that's just plain Gothic. But go dark and heavy. Deep colors.

    (Guys only) i need advice! looking for a girl?

    Anyways i need help starting conversation with girls. im not that shy i say whats on my mind all the time. but when it comes to a girl i got a crush on or a girl has a crush on me. i have no idea what to say? please help.





    Something other than hi or hello or can i sit next to you or the worse im bored how bout you thats all i allways get when i ask tell me the next step of the conversation?(Guys only) i need advice! looking for a girl?
    You need to be more observant of things they are interested in, and then ask them a lot of questions about that. People in general love to talk about themselves, to people who seem geniunely interested.





    You can make that a whole lot easier by joining a club or group that does something you're really interested in and finding a girl there, since she'll already have similar interests.





    Otherwise, like I said, be observant. Everyone offers some hints of what they're into, one way or another. Figure that out and then ask some questions about it. And don't just seem interested in it, BE interested in it. That will let her know you're actually really interested in her.(Guys only) i need advice! looking for a girl?
    You have two views on females: the female friend and the female target.





    Get it in your mind that all females are your friends, whether they be crushes or not...once you can realize that, then you wont be as nervous around them.





    The nervousness stems from FEAR.


    FEAR of saying the wrong thing that would make them dislike you or worse.


    Stop worrying about what they will think of you, be calm, be natural, be funny...if a girl cant understand your humor or dislikes your words when you are just being yourself...then she is not the right one for you.





    The worse a girl would do is walk away.


    If a girl throws a tantrum about it, it is most likely not your fault, it is due to her having a bad day, she is a psycho, or she is just not friendly to anyone.
    ADVICE i personally want to give to you is


    have guts


    don't be shy girls don't like to waste their time on this


    be caring and have respect


    don't play with their feelings don't be like the minute i love you and then another minutes you say you just love them as friends


    have time for them when they talk and answer sensible


    talk about something you like about her


    say what you feel like express it to her


    be brave loving caring
    well for starters you should nevere say im bored, that says to them jeez i cant find anything better to do can we talk.





    things you can talk about, music , things you like to do, you need to find some common ground, so that when you talk its a decent conversation.


    thats the best advice i can give you find common ground and go from there
    how about just go up to her and ask her to the movie.


    say..


    hey, the new incredible hulk movie is coming out this weekend.


    did you know that?


    ...she'll be like..yeah...i wanted to see it..


    then u go..


    ';who will you be seeing it with this weekend?


    hopefully, she said..';no one';


    and you jump in and said..


    do you wanna go see it with me...


    there you go..
    did you see XYZ on tv?





    Where do you work?





    ask her for help with something.





    basically ther key is to ask an open ended question, something that will lead on to more conversation. can i sit here is a yes or no answer.





    where do you work, what is your favourite etc can always lead onto more talking
    Sure! One thing I have noticed about girls is that they like being asked things. Ask them their favorite color...what their favorite place to eat or hang out...do they like going to the mall...that kind of stuff. I think it is great that you say what's on your mind. There are very few like that!
    it's easy to approach women especially if your sure you like them.





    Just straight up approach them and say





    Hello my name is...... Nice to meet you. I've noticed you for a while now and i was wondering if you would like to take time off your schedule to maybe have dinner sometime. Give her your card and walk away
    i would love a guy to just come up 2 me n just chat about random stuff honestly. im too shy to go up to them. if u know what they are into just be confident n start talking to her. n if theres sparks flying prior to that then you're half way there.





    (i kno its ';guys only'; but just wana help :)





    answer mine people:


    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
    Be fake. Don't be yourself, it's the biggest trap in the world. Just do whatever you think the girl is looking for. And don't let an awkward silence fall, if it does point it out with a joke (the awkward silence) that'll keep you going.
    Alright here is what to say (I promise you, its worked for me)





    Hey how you doing GIRLFRIEND? So whatcha doing today? Well I'm pretending to be a DNA polymerase so I can unzip your jeans today o.O
    Try to be cool and witty, just make general convo, hey, how are you, so what you been up to... that way you would talk to your mates.
    talk about something mutal, something you have in common, just dont try tooo hard, she will be able to tell, but its sweet u want to really try
    Ray I've answered this question already. This is the second time you've asked this. You really need the love guru. Go right up to this girl or woman and ask if she'd like to go out.
    find wht shes intrasted in and let it flow give it time and just start talking or u can ask her friends wht shes liked and there u go just dnt drown her with questions
    Say what she wants 2 hear which is like 4 example i could just swim in those eyes, Beautiful .


    but only if your man enough.
    Since you already tried being yourself I guess your just unattractive... try getting a face implant.
    be urself in every position or situation you r in
    talk about what she's wearing, even make fun of it, then compliment her, they put alot of thought into that crap, but they like it when u notice it
    Say: Can I suck your dick?


    If she says no, offer to let her suck your dick.
    Just make fun of something on them like piercings or their makeup. They love that.
    Just start speaking about general stuff, you know music, hobbies....etc
    Yeah , i need advice too (:
    walk up to her n say i love you and i always will..see wha happens :P
    ask her if she wants to go to dinner
    make a joke just dont stare at their rack!!!!!
    I not know

    For 10 points guys (or girls) please i need help so i will give you best answer if u give good advice?

    the guy i like in my school found out i like him. he apparently likes me a little and people are trying to get him to ask me out, even though i told them. although this sounds weird i have never even really talked to him much, so i dont know how i would confront him. i definately dont have the courage let alone the confidence to ask him out myself. he is fairly shy. any sugggestions? anything will help. and no im not giving up on him. i really like him and if i have a chance i would like to take it. help?For 10 points guys (or girls) please i need help so i will give you best answer if u give good advice?
    try this............ Will you go out with me (please circle)


    Yes No





    in a note of course....that way it's not a face to face akward thingFor 10 points guys (or girls) please i need help so i will give you best answer if u give good advice?
    You guys could go out in groups. So, get to know him more. Or ask for his email address and you could chat with him online. Good Luck!
    just go up and say hi. find out what he likes that interest you and then try and talk to him friendly. if there is anything there it will develop. good luck .
    THEN GO FOR IT!!! COME ON!!! HE LIKES YOU! YOU LIKE HIM! GO UP TO HIM!!! eheh... j/k j/k.. i know how it is to be in that situation... I've been in the same exact place for a while until my b/f asked me out.. LOL... really.. if he doesn't make the first move.. you go for it... gently say hi to him ever single day. I mean, a gentle ';hi'; wont hurt anyone especially if you and him like each other.... butta yeah, don't let time pass you by though. I mean, you don't want to say hi to him only... eheh... try saying hi for a week, then how are you doing... then phone numbers, emails, or whatnot...and start a conversation!! Butta yeah, notes are kinda romantic-ish....even though it's still childish and all, but if you think about it... if you can't talk.. might as well write! eheh... and obviously if he likes you too... YAY! GO FOR IT! =]
    It doesn't have to be an all or nothing thing. Just start talking to him as a friend. Get to know him %26amp; things will blossom from there if it's meant to be. It's much easier too!
    If u like this guy then talk to consistly and flirt with him and if he doesn't ask you out then just ask him.
    if he knows you like him and he is shy then yes ask him on a date whats wrong with that. he is probably to shy to ask you if your a hot chic, my friend asked her husband to marry her and they have been married for 5 years now. take a chance at this,


    if you don't you might not ever get asked out by him go ahead and get it over with.
    Since he is shy. Start out easy... Something simple like a smile when passing in the halls to a hi and wave. If he responds then maybe pass him a note or stick one in his locker.





    If he likes you, I bet his heart is pounding everytime he sees you and the nerves..oh man.. he's shaking in his boots but in a good way.. sooo.. if you really like him take it easy and do the note thing first, maybe emailing one another to IM's. Usually email and IM's help break the ice..





    Good Luck!
    you both are punks. but that's okay. find out his email address from a homeboy and write to him. tell him how you feel. for some people it's easier to write than to say what's really good. or you could get someone to discreetly slip him your number. if you do that he has the option at moving the way he really wants to. if he wants you he'll holla. but you should think about boosting up you confidence level because it's the sexiest thing a woman can have real talk.
    You don't have to confront him. You like him and he already knows this. So when you see him just smile and say Hi, If it's meant to be it will be. believe me I don't think he will look at your smile as being confrontational, just nice. good luck.
    well if u really like him ask him out in a note or somethin.


    yes u could take that chance to another level.
    Honestly, just leave it alone. It's already a public matter know, everybody knows your situation now, so if you ask him out or even confront him, people are going to be watching a close eye to see if you get rejected, and if you do...it will be embarrassing, because everybody will be talking about it. And I know you don't want to be known as the ';girl who got rejected';. Don't worry, if this guy really likes you, he will ask you out, and if not, there will be plenty more guys out there...trust me. Good luck.
    You should just go up and talk to him! By spending more time talking to him you'll see what he's really like, and then you might feel comfortable asking him out or he might ask you out. You need to talk to him more though!
    well first off meet him somewhere and get to kno eachother first then when you kno eachother a little bit more then ask him out either in a note or ask one of your friendsto ask him!!! if he says no then just ask to be friends with him and maybe after a while he might start liking you!
    first off don't ask him out just because you're friends think it's a good idea and 2nd if he's shy he probably likes you more than a little. Shy guys tend to treat girls better...but it sounds like you're pretty young, so i'd play the waiting game. Go hang out with him and give him the hint and let him ask you out
    ASK him out or you will regret later. Some guys are like girls, they can't make the first move. You don't even have to directly ask him out just flirt and in your case a whole lot for the guy to ask you out himself.
    as much as men hate to admit it they like when women are aggressive...........baby go after what you want.....shock him!!!! But dont over do it you dont want to come off too strong good luck!!!!
    The only way your ever going to be with him is if your get a little confidence. You only live once. Then worst he could say is no and chances are he wont so just go for it and If your still in school and if he does say no, so what, he'll forget about it and so will everyone else when the next drama day (which will be tomorrow) happens. I use to be the same way but if you never take chances your will never live.
    same situation happened to me and hes too shy to confront you so you have to gain the confidence to ask him. I know its extremely hard to ask someone out especially if your a girl asking a guy out so what i did was i was online and i asked him out in an im. I know pretty stupid but it works and it will be easier for him to answer and for you to ask.
    go up to him and say, ';Hi Joe! How is everything? I was wondering if you would like to go to the movies sometimes';? He will say yes or no.
    I would write him a note and stick it in his locker, give it to him yourself, or get a friend to give it to him.
    do one of two things


    1. just ask him out yourself but not in from of a group of people (too nerve wrecking)


    -or-


    2. have a mutual friend set up a small group date with like 4 or 6 people (not too many people because it will decrease the amount of time you will have with him)


    ...good luck





    -but whatever you do, do not give up on him if you like him that much and if he likes you. nothing more annoying that wasted love
    just start to talk to him and maybe you will end up liking him more than you first thought and dont worry about other ppl just be your self and he doesnt like you for who you are you dont need him





    if you want more advice you can email me kllr_kitty@yahoo.com


    good luck
    If you really like him, get to know him, ask him hows hes doing. Thats always a conversation starter. And if your serious about liking him, then just talk to him alittle more and more each day. You never know, one day after having a great conversation with him you may just get a note asking you out!





    Listen to your heart. If you really want to go out with him your best bet is to ask him out yourself. or maybe hes the kind of guy that does't want to rush into a relationship.Give him some time. Talk to him, Get to know him and let him know you. Remember;listen to your heart
    a group date would be a great idea or just go balls out and go on a date alone
    you seem to be at the point in your life when writting notes to one another is frequent.


    write him a note ask him to go out with you . let him know date time place activity that this will involve . i dont mean sex i mean if you have it in your head to go some place for a swim then let him know .


    include in the note that you need him to let you know if he accepts your request or not .


    i know that its all the rage to let your friends in on every detail of a date or crush but i would leave this one out of the gossip circle.


    i hope you have fun on your date .


    oh dont plan anything to expense this thing could just be coming over to your house to watch a movie or it could be swimming


    what ever you pick consider will this activity be enough that even if we dont talk to each other much we can still be ocupied with the activity and end up both finding that it was ok .


    casual fun relaxing friendly cheap sort of activities are best .


    once you have been alone with him talk will start to come easier


    for both of you and after this date and a few more dates will not be as big a deal as they seem to be right now.


    again i stress keep the details you know what i mean out of the gossip circles. if anyone presses you just say we get along together were friends he is my boyfriend and that is all i will tell you if you want to know more go get a boyfriend yourself and see what happens on dates.
    Well first off ,,,The situation between you and him is no ones business ,,,, nor should they try to intervene regardless of their intentions ,,,, This is your affair no one elses ,,,,Secondly ,,,, It's not proper etiquette for a girl to ask a guy out ,,,, But there's nothing that says it's wrong for a girl to go up to him ,,,, say like at school ,,,, and start a conversation with him ,,,, That can't necessarily be seen as being forward or bold ,,,, You said he is shy ,,,, Well ,,,, Simply going up to him to talk just might be the thing to do to sort of like maybe break the ice so to speak and enable him to respond ,,,, if he does seem a little tense or on edge then appologise to him by saying that you don't mean to put him on edge or make him feel uncomfortable and that you'll just leave if your being there bothers him ,,,, See how he will respond ,,,, Usually ,,,,, When a guy is on edge or shy with a girl and he is given the option to be left alone they won't take it ,,,, If he does like you then he's not going to want you to go but just hasn't got the nerve to say so ,,,, That being the case ,,,, then just let nature take it's course and go from there ,,,, You said you have a problem with being shy yourself but that's something only you can deal with ,,,, If you could figure out some question to ask him to start off with then it shouldn't be too hard to just open the conversation that way ,,,, All either of you have to do is simply begin ,,,, Things can progress from that point ,,,, You don't have anything to loose by trying ,,,,He can't kill you or even make you bleed and you just might wind up with a positive or desirable situation ,,,, Give it a try and good luck ,,,
    try flirting with other guys in front of him. not to much now. just a little and he will say to himself i better get her, before he does. and if he don't then he really didn't like you good enough then.
    almost the same thing happened to me the 2nd week of school. I started talking to the guy just like hey and stuff like that, and then I got the courage to ask him if he wanted to hang out at a football game, and that night he asked me out!





    I would just start talking to him and let it go from there!
    Well if you both dont really know one another thats the first step! get to know one another. dont rush into a relationship, take it slow- progress. if you want to ask him somewhere without officially asking him out, suggest going to starbucks and just talking maybe get something good to drink there, grab some lunch sometime, Do something simple and easy that will give yall time to talk and get to know one another. the best relationships are those that are not rushed. Also, dont let friends and other peers pressure yall into hooking up that will just tear you away from one another! I hope this has helped...its not the 10 points im after, i have been in your position before and i know what its like! Good luck sweetie!
    Well i have been here before, I asked my best friend to go up ti him and tell him to have i friend with u for there guts. So he did and we meet during lunch. So he came up to us and said u wanted to talk so he told me all the thing that he liked about me so than his friend and my friend pushed us together and he whispered something on my ear and i can still here to this day forward. He told me his cell number and his aim so that we could talk. I don't know if this helped or not if not please tell me. Oh yeah just have your closest friend to come with u they will all ways be there for u no matter what remember they will all ways love u no matter what.

    Ok guys, this one's for you....(and girls if you have advice please!)? by the way, its a bit cringey....?

    ok, so im worried about my appearance down below, and im really worried about my first time :(





    i tend to stop guys if the go near my pants because im worried that they wont like what i look like. its really getting me down because im at an age where most people have lost their virginity (not that im in a rush to) but i still wonder whether i will have the courage





    anyway, i woas wondering how much guys notice/care about the appearance of a girls private areas? and any advice or wisdome would be nice. thanks :)Ok guys, this one's for you....(and girls if you have advice please!)? by the way, its a bit cringey....?
    To begin with, you're not supposed to lose your virginity, but rather to give it to your lover. Neither of you will ever forget it.





    How can you possibly think you look bad there? You're just the way you are, it can't be any better. Love is not a beauty contest, just enjoy!





    Just keep it clean and don't do anythng more about it!Ok guys, this one's for you....(and girls if you have advice please!)? by the way, its a bit cringey....?
    Genitals of both sexes are pretty yuck-worthy if you look at them objectively. Fortunately for the survival of the species, hardly anyone is objective. My point? We're designed to be pleased with the genitals we're offered.





    From a practical point of view, trimming is good. It's always a bit better than full bush, especially where oral sex is concerned.





    Some guys really dig the fully shaved, others find it a little weird.





    But again, the main thing you should take away, the survival of our species has literally depended on our ability to find the beauty in whatever hairy, sticky, smelly bits we have access to. And we've been really successful in that. Don't worry.
    Well if their like me into oral sex so to speak. I prefer it neatly shaved not bald or anything that's a bit to far but you know around the clit and opening so to speak. Not to many guys wanna feel like they just licked a cat. As far as looks most guys don't care unless it's really bushy then you might wanna trim that.
    I'll be the first to tell you we all notice. Caring is another story. I'm assuming your younger. I am too (22) and will tell you that clean shaved is the most widely proffered. Hair just tends to get in the way. If you feel uncomfortable with removing everything just make sure it's trimmed. Then you hit the best of both worlds.





    I will warn you that trimming and shaving can get troublesome. Typically after you shave and hair begins to grow back it hits a stubbly point that likes to cling to underwear and clothing. It can be quite uncomfortable.





    Always! Always! Be clean.
    The weird thing is a guy was just harassing me online about this he had something posted about im not having sex with u unless u shave ur pubes and i got into a big argument about it with him about that is so rude to say to a girl yah know so if u have been going out a while then ask him if ur comfortable with it otherwise just blow the guy off because he probably wasn't worth it anyway!!! I mean come on its just hair right?
    It is a sad incitement on the society we live in when a girl is anxious about the appearance of her genitalia. It is an American obsession to expect movie star looks!! I am so sorry that these thoughts trouble you.:( Shampoo it brush it and make love to it. It is yours, love it and expect guys to.
    out of all honesty if its not oral sex, i feel like when the guy is in the mood he wont be judging you down there. just relax and enjoy yourself chicka :)


    ohh and as long as you dont smell down there you're ok. haha just stay clean!! maybe shave. but if shaving is not your thing them just trim and keep it neat. and be safe!! no prego pregos! hahaha
    Honestly most guys dont care or even look at it unless there going for cunninllingus. To us it all looks and smell the same. If a guys questions you about having an ugly vagina then he got issues. Guys dont talk about girl's vagina we talk about how good or how bad a girl is in bed.
    sounds like ur still in h.s.. soo if a guy likes u he's really not gonna care.


    he;s just gonna be happy either way u choose. but if u shave he might think uv done this b4. possibly. if ur so worried though u should wait till your more comfortable with yourself and not base things on what other people are doing at what age. when ur ready you won't be nervous.
    As long as you're clean and smell nice ';down there';, guys wont care as much. I have been with guys who like it shaven and not shaven, but they will love you either way. Find a guy who likes you for who you are, not what you look like.


    Hope this helps


    :D
    We all have a preference but as long as you're not sleeping around and dirty we aren't that picky. Be confident that is what is sexy, the rest is gravy.
    I'm not the guy to ask. I'm asexual. %26lt;%26lt;;





    So, uh





    I'm not really into genitalia.





    ... Though admittedly, breasts are nice. *Coughs*
    Don't listen to blast p, thats sick. Dont worry about it. Stay clean and shaven. Use mosterizer and skin softener, guys like soft skin and fruity smells. Hopei helped!
    I like a woman's private parts hairy. It shows that they're imperfect. When a woman is clean-shaven, it lowers my self-esteem.
    WELL MY FIRST TIME ME AND MY BF HAD TALK ABOUT IT BFORE


    SO JUS TALK TO UR BF ASK HIM IF HE LIKES ';BUSHY'; ';TRIM'; OR COMPLEATLY ';SHAVED';...SO JUST ASK UR GUY OR JUS KEEP IT TRIMED ALL THE TIME GOODLUCK
    be confident.. dont be scared.. whatever u have, its nice.. n its the human nature that most of the time we are not happy with what we have so just relax baby..





    n show us d pic so we can rate it.. lol.. kiddin! relaxxxxx..... :)
    as long as your squeaky clean


    and groomed


    you should be fine


    unless you got like a major lip problem


    some guys dont like a lot of lips
    No guy will care if he likes you alot, but everyguy would probly dislike it if you're loose.
    Well most guys like it shaved or at least trimmed well.


    So if you do either of these, the guy shouldn't mind =)
    shaven is always nice, however so long as your gonna let the guy have sex with you, i don't think he will care.
    definitely shave but not all of it just keep it clean and well groomed..


    and don't worry about your appearance it's a pu$sy any guy will love it!


    but really don't have sex really!
    you should trim and wash regularly down there the last thing a guy wants is to see a smelly hairy forest down there
    It is fine the way it is .............. but if you must change something ............... a little trim is ok ........ clean shaven is too much.
    every guy likes it diffrent ways but id shave it. or wax it.
    As long as you shaved or clean guys dont care
    As long as its shaven and washed, they dont mind.
    guys don't care honestly....they love it however :)
    been known to do a little manscaping myself. good luk
    dont do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    shave
    well for the most part they don't care if their getting it. but yes well groomed is a plus. Don' worry you don't have to shave it all off. that would be a bad idea because your skin will break out because its not use to it. Just do a trim. You can use a flat comb an scissors but for your first time that maybe a bad idea. bikini trimmer or eyebrow/beard trimmer would work, just try to keep it even. you can look up the process.





    http://www.hairchick.com/phr/trimming-pubic-hair.php





    http://www.ehow.com/how_2283932_trim-pubic-hair.html





    to make the process easier take a warm bath use conditioner it help thin the hair. best of luck
  • jane iredale
  • Is there any advice for a 14 yr old girl? guys ,school , and stuff i should know?

    Guys: Dont follow them around and dont sweat them. They like the girls with confidence.





    School: Do good, it is important. Make lots of friends and have lots of activities.





    Listen to your parents. They really do know best.Is there any advice for a 14 yr old girl? guys ,school , and stuff i should know?
    Advice: Take advice from your parents and or trusted adult and not we whom you dso not know, young lady..Is there any advice for a 14 yr old girl? guys ,school , and stuff i should know?
    Usually when people turn 14.. They get put under a lot of pressure like from guys and school. But there is no need to worry about anything unless you just think before you act :)
    keep being smart! not that you shouldnt have fun. do your homework
    Yeah, keep your clothes on
    whoa, this question is WAY TOO BROAD, but be urself and enjoy adolescence cause it will end
    Keep your panties on, and remember that you have a long time to do all the things that you'd like to. Don't be in a hurry!

    Dating advice for a shy girl? what do guys like?

    i'm a 19 yr old girl and i'm having some dating trouble. i'm not unattractive but not many boys ask me out, and the ones who do i don't like. am i too picky? i just don't want to settle for ones i dont like a lot. i am kinda shy and sometimes get nervous around boys i like..any advice? i am also a bit of a tomboy so i think boys that i spend time with start to think of me as just a friend. there was a boy that i liked and i could tell he liked me, but he had a girlfriend in a different state..sometimes i feel really unlucky and like i will never find someone..i'd like advice from girls and boys. what are good ways to flirt? what clothes do boys like? obviously i'm not looking to change who i am-just curious.Dating advice for a shy girl? what do guys like?
    I used to be very, very shy. I didn't wear ';revealing'; clothing, and I NEVER talked to boys. One day, I looked in the mirror. I took off my nerdy glasses and put on an outfit that showed off my body. And I realized that I wasn't as ugly as I thought.


    You should try that. Put on something that reveals your body. Hey, you could even get naked. And just study yourself. Your face, your arms %26amp; legs, your torso, chest, buttox, everything. And think about how unique you are. You aren't changing yourself, you'r ';discovering'; yourself.


    You might also try a bit to change your physical appearance. I, personally, love to change my appearance because it boosts my confidence. I changed by getting contacts, buying make-up (just to enhance myself- a little mineral powder, a little mascara), and cutting my long hair off and dying it red. You don't have to change THAT much, but I think I did- just a little change, even if it's a trim for your hair. Not only will this boost your confidence, but it will make guys notice you.


    Good guys (guys who care about your personality, not just your looks) don't like girls who smother their body with baggy clothes, and they don't like girls who show off too much. I find that varying what you wear really catches a guys attention. One day, I'll wear a tank that shows off a little bit of cleavage , and the next, a cool T-shirt. It keeps guys guessing and catches their attention.


    Good guys like girls who can be both down to earth and serious %26amp; crazy and funny. Just be yourself around guys. Don't worry so much about what guys think of you. Chances are, if they're judgemental about everything about you, their not worth it. A good guy will like all your silly little quirks.


    Just try to be friends with guys, and then take it further from there. Most of all, be honest with them and yourself.


    Oh, have you ever seen/read The Secret? I highly recommend you either buy the book and/or the movie. They helped me with developing a lot.


    Best of luck!Dating advice for a shy girl? what do guys like?
    Close and everything doesn't matter to me personally. I'm very shy myself but once you start talking long enough it wont be as nervous. Just remember to say hi alot and ask him some questions that aren't to freaky.
    just be yourself obviously but talk to guys make good eye contact and laugh a lot. thats probably the biggest clue is when girls laugh.
    Know what you want attitude


    Well rounded in all areas of your life


    Ambitious


    Happy with yourself.
    its not just about clothing shorty its more about the presentation of yourself, you can be a tomboy and still be sexy with it, you just haft to learn how to pimp out your looks, highlight your strong points, turn your flaws into strengths. be confident, find a guy u like and ask him questions, pay attention to the girls he thinks are hot and mold yourself more closer to that idea, but be creative and develop your own personal style with it, make yourself stand out in a crowd, that way guys wont have any other choice but to notice and be drawn to you ok.
    Since you are shy, guys that might be interested in you don't even know you like them. I'm sure if you showed some signs of interest, they would reciprocate the interest.





    This used to happen to me a lot until a good friend told me I told let guys near me... like I keep them at a distant so they think I don't like them. When in reality I'm just so shy I automatically think they won't be interested.





    Open up more, show guys that you can enjoy life, have something to offer. Guys like girls who like them. :)
    oh wow you sound like me. lol. i was exactly like that last year, and I got tired of guys I actually liked not asking me out and guys I didnt like asking me out. You're not picky, you just probably open up better to guys you dont like because you dont get nervous around them.


    Here's what I did this year that I didnt do last year (and this year I had two bfs...both of which I had HUGE crushes on :D


    I started talking to the guy I liked a lot more, and treated him like a really good friend. He eventually started adding little flirty comments in and I just laughed at them. Or just smile at him.


    I also started wearing my nicer shirts, instead of t-shirts and jeans I put more time into my clothes and tried to match more. I didn't change... I just wore my clothes that flattered me instead of making me look like I didnt care.


    The key thing, though, is to just be more open and talkative to the guy you like. It's a little hard to overcome ur nerves at first, but honestly the guy will probably start to really like you once he sees your personality.


    And..the guys who think of u as a friend..if u like one of them..start smiling at him more. Sort of single him out and focus ur attention on him..but not in a creepy way lol :)





    good luck!
    just be patient. You may have to wait a while longer for the right guy to come along but im sure he will. I didnt meet my first boyfriend until i was 20. before i meet him the guys that asked me out i really wasn't attracted to, and i was really frustrated. Im glad i waited because i meet someone i really liked- and believe me theres lots of single guys your age out there who would love you the way you are, so dont try to change for them just be patient. the right guy will come along soon:)

    I need some advice i had been seeing this guy for years found out he has a live in girl friend we backed it?

    off but i think hes seeing others he calls me from time to time i think just to see where iam at. iwant to know if i should tell the girl friend.she been there the whole time.I need some advice i had been seeing this guy for years found out he has a live in girl friend we backed it?
    I had something similiar happen 3 weeks ago, but mine was married and yes I told her. You are getting the short end of the stick sweetheart, and for you to keep this secret is enabling this stupid behavior.I need some advice i had been seeing this guy for years found out he has a live in girl friend we backed it?
    I would call her. Be very mature about it because you are hurt as well but thought she deserved to know. If you want don't tell her who you are.
    Absolutely...tell her! Its the right thing to do....

    Hi (: i'm another 15 year old girl looking for boy advice. may i please have some help with this guy?

    okay... so there is this guy who i'm really in to. he is just perfect, i've never seen anything like him before. now he was 'talking' to my best friend... but me and her aren't as great friends anymore but she'd still be mad if she knew i liked him. it's a risk i'm willing to take. he used to like me but i told him i didn't feel a connection. now i just pray he'd want to be with me! is there anything i can do to get him to like me again without coming off as desperate? i really hate texting people first. /: also... should i tell my friend?Hi (: i'm another 15 year old girl looking for boy advice. may i please have some help with this guy?
    That's your problem: ';I told him I didn't feel a connection,'; you just basically made him think that you're not interested in him in any way.





    And to be honest, if you really want him back, being desperate is probably the best way to make him understand that you made a terrible mistake and you liked him all this time.





    Ignore your friend, it doesn't matter between you and her, all that matters is you approach him with confidence and tell him that you were always interested in him.

    Dating a guy for 2 months wants to watch me get it on with another girl?? Help need advice?

    Ok Im 25 he is 30 we have been dating now for 2 months we are not as of yet bf/gf, he has a fantasy to see two girls get it on. He and I are having sex and its great. I would like to fill this fantasy for him. But what I need to know is if I do this will he still see me as girlfriend material? Or is he just using me? I know he like me and wants to have a realtionship, but is he seeing me as just a good for now girl or will I have potiental in being the there forever girl for him.. Any of your adivce is helpful and thanks in advance.Dating a guy for 2 months wants to watch me get it on with another girl?? Help need advice?
    My fantasy is richer and my girlfriend refuses to participate too:





    I am tied up on an “X” shaped cross dressed in red velvet, like Santa, horizontally positioned one meter over the floor, while a virgin girl of eighteen, standing over my face is pissing on me. Another girl has my member in her mouth, biting gently the glans while a third one, dressed in a nurse uniform gives me an enema with “Cordon Rouge” champagne.





    Girls, girls, participate!!! Our respect for you will be greater.Dating a guy for 2 months wants to watch me get it on with another girl?? Help need advice?
    Listen all guy fantasy about stuff like that and dont put yourself out like that or he may take advantage. So wait about another 2 months


    then if thinks you are not enough for him then do it one time and that way he can start thinking of you in a different way or you can dump him.
    i don't if he wants to be your boyfriend or not.but i know alot of guys that like that sort of thing and doesn't think less of the girl. the real question is ''do you want to do'' and if so do it. And if you are doing it just for him say forget it. It all boils down to want you really want to do.
    Talk to him before hand and be honest about it. Tell him how you feel and if he is only there for one thing then you know what to do. Get rid of him!!!!!! Maybe you could full fill his dream later on down the track when you are actually officially a couple so that way you feel more confortable!! Just be honest and if you feel comfortable with him then go for it!!
    Simple...only do this if it's something you want to do as well...don't do this just for the sake of satisfying his fantasy...he's not necessarily using you because he has a fantasy and has shared it with you, but he's also not looking to be exclusive with you, apparently. This relationship probably won't last forever if you go down this road right now...fantasies like this are easier to share after you've built a high level of trust and intimacy with your partner...





    Good luck whatever you decide to do!
    dump him ur his toy
    dont even. girl you need to leave him but if your up to that nasty girl on girl thing then go ahead do you
    Move on,DUMP him he is USING u
    the only reason you should ever do something is because you wanted to. if he tries to persuade you to do something you have no interest in he is using you. tell him if he gets it on with another man then you will get it on with a woiman and he will shut up.
    Tell him you are not that kind of girl, and that you have more respect for yourself. more then what he has for you! If you do this, you are doing it for him. He does not care about you, you are a toy to him, who will do anything he tells you to do! He is not relationship material, trust me, and one who asks you to do something like that, is a player, and he is thinking only of himself! I want you to find someone, who will be satisfied with just you! Have a great holiday!
    Don't do it.Dump him.


    He is using you.


    Look at yourself and think ,';i won't ever fill that fantasy for him.';


    Is he really worth it?No guy is.


    Look at yourself now and think ,';he can fill that fantasy on his own.';


    Don't ever do something that stupid just for a guy.


    They spread it and then you will be the sorry one in the turn-out.
    If you want your relationship to go further and stronger, DON'T FULFILL ANYONE'S FANTASY. DON'T DO IT. You'll regret it. Guys will try to test you see what you will and will not do.





    Practical Advise: Don't be so willing to jump and please your guy. Sometimes the word No is good.
    do it, he will join in on the action.
    he is not serious about the relationship. why would somebody you just met, wants you to sleep with another girl. lose him.find someone who cares about you as a person .
    It seems like u are his sex toy...but anyways that is gross that u would even think about having sex with another girl just to make him happy......are u sure ur not bi?
    no, if he wants to see 2 girls get it on , he can pay 2 prostitutes to do it. i think you would be decreasing your opportunity of having him as a ';regular boyfriend'; if you participate in this.....
    I can tell you that he doesn't want to just ';watch'; he wants to participate. And all you have to do is ask yourself this... Do you want to be in a relationship where he will always want you to sleep with other people? because once you open that door there is no way to close it.
    let me no so i can be there?
    I would not do that for him because you are not his fantasy toy. Tell him to get 2 hoes and they can do it and you can both watch.
    If he respected you he would not be asking you to do that kind of thing. You have only been going out for 2 months and he is already treating you like a piece of meat to make himself happy. It appears to me that he isn't concerned about how you might feel about it. that tells me that he is using you and he does not think of you as a forever girlfriend but as a convenience. DUMP HIM
    So you are porking him at only 2 months and totally willing to do whatever he wants in the hope he wants to have you forever. Wake up, girlfriend. Where are you in this? Why are you so willing to just do this guy's bidding?
    Ok,Im not very good at this relationship stuff.But if he likes you,he would like for you.not for what you do for him.if your confused,just talk to him.if you want him to love you,or be with you for the rest of your lives,he would understand that your confused and dont think thats right,he will understand.
    Tell this dick your not a hore if he likes to watch other people have sex then rent a tape. What ever you decide try not to degrade yourself.
    You're being used. If you really want to do it, wait and see if he asks you to be his girlfriend, then think about it.





    Oh yeah, don't forget, if you really care for him, you might end up regretting it later, and feeling jealous.
    Don't fall for this, this is just a pretext to try and get both of you in bed at the same time. Unless you really want to do it for yourself, don't go along. Otherwise you will harbor resentment that will eventually come back.
    go for it see where it goes if he leaves let him at least you will still have someone in bed ya know
    ewwwwwww


    he's using you.


    that would make u a lesb
    you should be with him more than two months before you get into that kind of experiment.then after you know him than you should consider having that girl on girl action.i think he is not using you at all.he just want to see your hot body with another girl so he can get turn on when he is watching his girlfriend.so just wait awhile before you leap into it.
    u sound like a nice sex toy.
    It's really pretty obvious he's using you for sex and is being incredibly selfish too. I think since you are wise enough to question his motives, you could be wise enough to realize you deserve much better, and not a lover who is all about what he wants.